I had a pretty lengthy conversation last week with a young pastor who was coming to terms with the fact that three families had left his church very recently. I gave him my usual spiel -
Don't take it personally.It's a part of church life.Keep focused on the vision.As I said while teaching yesterday morning, the truth is that's hogwash. Another term had come to mind, but I don't think pastors in America are generally expected to say or write it.
Thirty seven years and counting after starting pastoring, I still take it personally when people leave the church and I hope that I always will - because people matter to me.
I'm not just running some organization, hoping to keep attendances above the critical level where we can function and be financially viable - I'm a pastor, not the brightest or the best, but a pastor all the same.
That means that I feel I have a relationship with everyone who is part of our church. I don't mean we live in each others pockets or that I show up with flowers on their wedding anniversary, I just mean we have a sense of connectedness, even though I might not know a lot more about them than their names.
We're not only connected, we're committed too - to a mission, a vision, a dream.
So when people leave - as people do - I'm sorry to see them go as I feel they're a part of me.
I'm sorry to see some people leave for their own sakes, knowing they've always walked away from issues and are doing the same yet again.
I hate the dishonesty of -
We love you and we love the church, but we feel God is moving us on. Spare me the insincerity. Better to just do what most folks do and stop showing up, without a word of explanation.
Anyway, here's the deal. According to Jesus' teaching in John 15, a vine that has been fruitful needs to be cut back if it is to see even more growth and you can't really argue with that because Jesus knows a things or two.
We saw some of that pruning in the early months of this year, but the cutting back was the precursor to even more growth, which was pretty clear at the end of service yesterday in a packed Theater 13.
And the real harvest comes this fall - great days ahead!